One night only: Birmingham Edition

For the past year I have met some wonderful people, turned 22, and explored Birmingham in a way many do not get to do so. I want everyone to enjoy Birmingham as much as I do and have a great experience while doing so. Below I will list my FAVE spots in the ‘Ham that are popping and never disappoint. Huge shout out to my girl Renay. She is my better half and my partner with exploring new areas.

Lakeview: This area has quite a few bars. The best one with the best bartender is Brown’s Bar though. Love this place! Make sure you see James! Side Bar, Nana Funks, Moes(on friday and saturday nights), Innisfree, Tin Roof

P.S. you can get in free with a Military I.D. at Tin Roof & Side Bar & Moe’s. Brown’s Bar is free to get into.

Paramount: games, food, and alcohol! what is better than that right?

5 points South: Black Market on Wednesday has $1 Wells. 3000 Bar usually has a nice crowd this night as well. I like both. However, Black Market is usually playing hard metal (bang your head against the wall music) on Wednesday’s. I like 3000 Bar since they play more pop, hip-hop, and rap music.

Dirty Ashes: Went here the other day and LOVED it. The bartenders are wonderful. The crowd is amazing. Definitely going back. I am all for great energy and cool vibes. This bar is that and some.

Redmont Hotel & Elyton Hotel: both provide a rooftop bar experience. Drinks and a view of the city! LOVE it.

If you are ever bored in the city, hit me up and I am sure I will be able to tell you of a place to go to. Always remember, your fun is dependent on the company you keep. Therefore, if the people you are hanging around are not fun and produce bad vibes, then you will not have the best night. Renay and I always have a great night no matter how packed a place is. We make our own fun.

Hope you guys found some new places to go to after reading this post! Let me know if you do attend one of the bars and how your night went!

Stay blessed

xo, thechi

 

 

 

Silent Seasons

One day, I got so bored I began to watch random Instagram stories. Well, on this particular day I watched Heather Lindsey’s story and came across her new book “Silent Seasons.” Right when I saw the title of the book I knew I needed it. I googled the book real fast and the about section won over my heart. It described everything I was going through and feeling at that moment.

This is what it said, I learned something very valuable in a silent season and that is that I shouldn’t be trying to build something when I was supposed to be cultivating my spirit. I was supposed to use that season to spend time with God, grow, and rest in Him – not step out on faith and try to do something out of His timing. How many of us are making “faith moves” when we are supposed to be resting? You will find yourself tired because you built something that wasn’t even for you.” ………….. Are you going through a silent season in your life right now? Do you feel stuck? Do you feel like doors keep closing but nothing is opening in your life? Do you feel rejected or forgotten? Do you feel like you can no longer hear the voice of God or like life has handed you a bad deck of cards? If so, this book is for you. In Silent Seasons: Trusting God When You Don’t Understand, Heather Lindsey shares how silent seasons are an opportunity to grow closer to the Father. In this book you will learn: – How to stay strong in the midst of tests and trials – How to avoid comparing your life to others – How to be faithful with small – How to stretch your faith to do what God is telling you to do Grab a blanket and some tea and get ready to walk out this silent season like never before!”-Heather Lindsey, Silent Seasons.  

Whew, doesn’t it just fuel your soul? I felt like God was speaking straight into my soul through the book. I read the book in a day and instantly felt God changing how I looked at my situation. Even if you are not religious, the book is still amazing. Just knowing there is a purpose behind everything we are going through gives us a sense of relief.

The main point I got from the book that helped me tremendously was: Right now, you are being pruned. We cannot harvest all the time. We are kind of like a flower, you plant the seed and have to wait for it to grow. Does it grow and bloom into the beautiful flower it is overnight? Definitely not. Right now, if you are going through something and feel like you are at yours wits end, just remember: You are a seed that just got planted into the ground. Continue to water yourself, invest in yourself, face the sunlight, and be ready to bloom when your harvest season comes.

I would definitely recommend buying this book. Maybe it is just what you need. 

xo, thechi

The Renovation

‘Tis the season to be growing. Each and every person goes through a variety of seasons in their lifetime. Some good and some bad. However, every season we endure can actually be a happy, healthy time period no matter what it is. We have to know how to turn the bad upside down and make sense of it.

I am currently going through a transition season in my life and I have named my season “The Renovation.” I am undergoing construction in my life to make it a better, happier life for myself. And I am here to offer advice to you that has helped me get through the bad times and turn my situations around.

First and foremost, why did I name it “The Renovation”? Because, when we renovate a house it may not be because we do not want to live there anymore, we just see that things could be better in the house. Therefore, we have to take down and tear apart the old and bad, and replace it with something more suitable and stronger.

When bad things happen to us, we tend to question it and ask “why me?” “why did this have to happen to me?” “I am such a good person, I do not deserve this.” –When things did not go as planned for me I jumped straight into asking/saying these things. Throughout my new season in my life I have decided to not question the process,but BE THANKFUL for the bad things that happen to me. I am a firm believer in “Everything happens for a reason.” I prayed to God countless times and told him “Thank you for these things to happen to me. Allow it to make me stronger. I know you will not allow it to break me. I have faith in knowing that this situation will only have a better outcome.” Things have to break and fall apart in order for better things to build up. Knowing this, you will face every situation with confidence. You will understand there is a process to get to the top.

If you are going through a tough time right now, this is a message from me to you:

“Stay strong. Trust the process. Have faith that there is beauty in your mess. Understand that this can only make you stronger. You have to stay positive and choose to be happy every day. I do not know what you are going through, but I have felt the same hurt you have felt. You will see better days, trust me. Stop throwing yourself a pity party. You are only hurting yourself more. You have the ability to turn your situation around. Be confident and own your situation. Do not let your situation define you, however, define your situation”

xo, thechi

 

Us & The City: Birmingham Edition

I have been living in Birmingham since August 2014 and I always wanted to try new things in the city but never could find the places. I wish I knew of the cool hole in the wall places back then. Recently, I discovered it is never too late for adventures in the city. For the past few weeks my beautiful friend, Renay, and I have been on a journey in the city of Birmingham. Below I will provide you guys a list of “out of the ordinary” restaurant’s in Birmingham that I recommend you try. I hope you enjoy and give at least ONE of the places a try this summer!

SoHo Social : Wonderful appetizers, good deals, and great staff. I would suggest going on a Tuesday, as they have tacos for cheap. They also have game nights on Sunday’s.

Carrigan’s : This restaurant has a rooftop, along with great deals throughout the week. My friend’s and I went on a Wednesday and they had $10 breakfast w/ mimosa. I will upload a picture of it, and if it does not make you want to go then i do not know what will.

Sky Castle : You guys, I went to this place 3 times in one week. That is how amazing it is. The staff and the vibe here is one that will keep you going to this place. On top of that, the food is phenomenal here. The catfish, grits, and greens will leave you wanting more. They have these couches that sit in front of a big screen TV if you are in the mood to sit back and relax with friends or a significant other. I HIGHLY recommend you try this place. I fell in love with it.

Babalu’s : This place is a little on the expensive end, however, it is worth it to eat here. I like the atmoshphere and the food is amazing. The shrimp and grits are my favorite. However, the salmon and rice is pretty good too.

Los Compadres : Do you love Taco Tuesday? Well guess what?! Couldn’t get enough of tacos on tuesday… this place has deals for college students on THURSDAY’s. $1 margaritas, $1.50 tacos, and $2 domestic beers. Yes, this is only for college students on Thursday’s w/ ID. Thank me later. P.s. They also have $1 margaritas on Wednesday’s for all people.

El Barrio : Obviously, high end Mexican restaurants are our thing. This place has great everything. From the chips&salsa to the interior design. When you get paid and want to splurge, go to this place. You will leave satisfied and full.

Redmont Bar : Do you like to socially drink? Yes? this is your place. The rooftop bar and lounge is one of Birmingham’s most beautiful bar. With a full view of the city, wonderful staff (Shoutout to Tracy, Chris, and Josh; best bartenders ever), and great drinks. You cannot help but to be happy and tipsy here.

Slice : Wine Wednesday’s are here and in full effect. Who does not love half off on a bottle of wine? Let me tell you, every one loves half off on a bottle of wine.

Grille29 : Stressed spelled backwards is desserts. With a nice selection of delicious treats i would rank their desserts 20 out of 10. That is how amazing it is. Thank you Ms. Tracy for telling me about this place. I have not tried their food, but by how good their desserts are, I am sure their food is even better. They also have mimosa’s on Saturday morning at the low price of  29¢ MIMOSAS 10 – 11 AM & $3 MIMOSAS 11 AM – 2 PM.

Pizitz Food Hall : Everything about this food hall screams culture. I love how they have different restaurants that are different from your regular chicken, burgers, and fries. If you are ever in the mood to try something different I would recommend this place. They have a variety of choices. Click the name and it will show you a list of the restaurants located in the food hall.

Thank you for reading my post. I hope you found it helpful and try one of the places on the list! Have a beautiful day!

 

xo, thechi

The culprit: Acne

I have suffered from acne since I was 13 y/o. I am now a 21 year old that is out of puberty. I was on antibiotics for 7 ½ years until one day recently I decided I am no longer putting these pills into my body that not only cause harm but also breaks my bank account. Let me tell you, I have been off of antibiotics for a couple of months now and my face is still pretty acne free. But most importantly, my body is screaming THANK YA JESUS!!

Although antibiotics treated my acne, I suffered a lot from the side effects. I continuously got yeast infections and had a weak immune system. Now I will tell you how I have been able to control my acne without pills from the doc.

Drink PLENTY of water. Yes, staying hydrated and drinking less sodas and alcohol has helped tremendously. I eat out less or at least try to stay away from fast food. I was my face with benzoyl peroxide morning AND night. Washing your face twice a day makes a huge difference. At night following washing my face I treat my entire face with a retinoid cream/gel. You can get these from the Dermatologist, other doctors, or the internet. In the morning I first wash my face, then  rub witch hazel with a cotton ball over my face, apply acne cream (any of your choice), and lastly moisturize. Other things you can do to help the texture of your face is to get a chemical peel, microdermabrasion, or cool laser. As for me, I used to get chemical peels once a month and it slowly got rid of the redness, those little “indents” in my face, and small bumps.

I know this seems like a lot, however, once you get in the routine it will become the norm for you. I really hopes this helps anyone that is suffering from acne!

Being a cadet…

Yes, I’m that girl that looks like she is headed to war every Tuesday and Thursday. Let’s just say I have a love/hate relationship with my ACU’s (Army Combat Uniform). This post is for ALL of my college ROTC peers. Just know I feel your pain.

For starters, being a cadet has its ups and downs. We have to wake up before the crack of dawn, slip on a PT (physical training) uniform, and go workout 4-5 times a week. We have days of field training (WITHOUT A SHOWER), have to check our email almost every 30 minutes because there is always something new going on, and give up staying out late during the week with our non-ROTC friends. It does not stop there though. We also give up half (or sometimes more) of our summer to do Army training to help us becoming the “future leaders of America.” While all ROTC cadets do this over the summer, you other regular college kids get to “turn up,” go on long summer vacations, and wake up close to lunch every day.

However, I would not trade in this uniform for anything in the world. Yes, being a cadet requires much more work but like they said at camp: EMBRACE THE SUCK. Suck is good. Suck builds character. Being in ROTC is way better than being some ole average college student. I now know how to sustain good bodily hygiene while spending 20 days in the field.

ROTC teaches us many things that being a regular college student cannot and I am forever grateful for this opportunity that God gave me. 

xo, thechi

Spouse vs. kids. Who comes first?

Recently I posted a question on Facebook asking, “In the household who comes first? Spouse or kids.” Surprisingly, many people responded with their view on it and explained why they felt that way.

Today, I will explain why the spouse comes first in a short explanation. You may or may not agree, however, hear me out on why I believe this. Especially after receiving feedback on my question.

When it comes to a [Christian] household God, no matter what, should come first and be the main priority. When you put God first then everything else will fall into place. In the average American home the husband is the head of the household. The husband can keep the family together by doing one simple thing and that is being a follower of Christ. Once the family sees the head of the house following Christ then they will follow suit.

The marriage comes next. When a husband and wife take care of their marriage and put each other first then they can take care of their kids without difficulty between one another. A husband and wife are one, a team, and a partnership. When you put the kids first this can lead to contradiction, he said she said, and spoiled kids. The husband and wife work on one accord. When you put your kid before your spouse and make decisions about the kid without them, this can create problems such as: the spouse not feeling as though you two are raising the children together, the husband not feeling as if he is the head of the house or the wife not feeling like she has an important role in the marriage. When the marriage starts to fail, this not only affects the couple but the children too.

The kids are important, but remember husband and wife are one; raise the kids together by leading from example.

xo, thechi